Hi, I’m Stephen—Your Coach! In Human Design, I’m a 6/2 Emotional Projector (Role Model/Hermit), and in BG5, I’m an Advisor Natural/Leader. My Incarnation Cross is the Left Angle Cross of Migration, with my purpose being fulfilled through the mind and mental clarity.

Welcome to Healing by Design—a space I created to help people grow, heal, and reconnect with who they are. My journey to this point hasn’t been easy. I grew up in a family dynamic full of emotional neglect and chaos shaped by narcissistic abuse. To survive, I learned to put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own, always aiming to keep the peace. I became the person who worked tirelessly to make others happy, even if it meant losing pieces of myself along the way.

Losing yourself is a unique kind of pain. It’s not just about forgetting who you are—it’s mourning the dreams, plans, and relationships that once felt like your foundation. For a long time, I carried survival habits into every part of my life. These patterns helped me navigate hard times, but they also held me back. Letting them go felt impossible, like I was giving up part of who I was. But I’ve learned that those survival patterns, while they served a purpose, aren’t meant to stay with you forever. Moving forward means allowing yourself to grow beyond them.

For years, I tried to fill the emptiness I felt inside by chasing love, achievements, and external success. I worked harder, handled everything alone, and looked to others for validation. Deep down, though, I was searching for connection—something real and meaningful. But I also struggled to trust anyone, especially when their actions didn’t match their words. I started keeping my emotions to myself, thinking they were too much for others to handle. It left me feeling isolated, even as I longed for closeness.

It wasn’t until I discovered the Human Design system that things started to make sense. I began to see the patterns that kept me stuck, how they were holding me back, and how to change them. I realized that abundance isn’t about what you have—it’s about how you show up in life. I learned to trust myself again, build healthy connections, and let go of relationships and habits that didn’t serve me anymore.

That’s what Healing by Design is all about. It’s not about fixing who you are but about uncovering the person you’ve always been beneath the survival mode. I help people figure out what’s keeping them stuck, whether it’s in their relationships, career, or personal growth, and create a path forward that feels true to them. Using Human Design as a guide, I offer tools and insights to help you better understand yourself, align with your values, and move through life with clarity and confidence.

This space isn’t just about helping you solve problems—it’s about helping you build a life that feels right. Whether you’re looking to find your purpose, improve relationships, or reconnect with yourself, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s start this journey together.

About Me: Meet Stephen, Your Coach